Awareness – Part 4: Distractions Can Be Deadly

All Personal Defense starts with being aware of your surroundings.  Awareness is a comdreamstime_m_13073572 300pxbination of observation, intuition, and mentally developing possible outcomes.  

A person that has developed a good sense of awareness greatly increases their ability to stay safe.  They see problems as they occur – perhaps before they even start.  
If we increase our awareness, we improve our personal safety.  This series of blog posts will discuss ways to develop and enhance our awareness.

Distractions Can Be Deadly

To be aware, according to the dictionary, is: to have knowledge; to be cognizant; to have a range or scope of observation; to take notice; to perceive.

Our previous posts have been about increasing our our awareness through increased observation, perception and knowledge.  We looked at the uptake of information, filtering and processing it, and making plans for any potential threats we observe.  These are all things we should do to improve our safety through awareness.

In this post we will shift gears a little bit and look at one thing we should NOT do.  We should not allow distractions to diminish our personal safety.

Too Much To Process
There is a bit of a paradox when it comes to taking in as much information as possible, and trying to understand all of it.  While the human brain can process amazing amounts of information – it cannot process all that info and arrive at a full and complete understanding.

A related part of the paradox is that we are just getting glimpses of information.  Without some context to put around it, we can’t understand these snippets.

So we have too much information to process and not enough context.  That’s the bad news.

The good news?   We don’t need total and complete understanding.  We only need to identify a potential threat – which we often do by noticing the unusual.  Sometimes the unusual is so obvious that we notice it immediately.  Many times it is the subconscious that tips us off.

Distractions – Sometimes Good, Usually Bad
The natural tendency, when we see something that gets our attention, is to focus on it.  That’s not a bad thing, as the focus helps us analyze and possibly understand it.  That is especially good when the object we are focusing on is a potential threat.

But focusing on one thing means that we are not aware of anything else going on around us.  The thing we are focusing on has become a distraction to all other things we could be paying attention to.

Experts tell us that the way the human brain is wired you cannot really pay attention to more than one thing at at time.  As one example, studies show that our peripheral vision can drop as low as 10% of normal when we are simply walking and texting.

We see or hear about distractions causing harm with increasing regularity, usually tied to our smartphones.  People walk into poles, or wander into the street, because they are distracted.  Recently the federal government began to offer grants of $2 million to cities to decrease distracted walking.

Note that this concept of distraction can also apply to having headphones on or earbuds in.  Just having your earbuds inserted decreases your awareness by muting sounds that might alert you to impending danger.  Note that I’m NOT saying to never listen to music on earbuds, but just be aware of the tradeoffs you are making when you do.

Of course distractions come in a multitude of forms, not just smartphones and earbuds.  A distraction could be a screaming toddler, a vendor trying to sell you something as you walk by, or a fender-bender in the intersection.

What to we do about distractions?  They will always exist, so complete and total elimination is not an option.  We need a plan for how we handle them.

Handling Distractions
First step is to acknowledge they exist.  If you start with that concept, with the understanding that you can be distracted, then you are more likely to recognize when it is happening and return to your normal awareness patterns.

For most distractions we need to determine – as quickly as possible – if the distraction is a potential threat.  If so, we will spend more time on it.  If it is not a potential threat then we need to move back to our standard pattern, no matter how intriguing the distraction may be.

A vendor’s entire motivation is to distract you from whatever you were thinking about, and to start thinking about their particular product or service.  Most of us simply force ourselves to ignore them – which of course only makes them try harder.  Practice certainly helps in ignoring them and moving past them.

If you can’t help it- if you are drawn in to the distraction like a ship to a siren’s song – then do a thorough scan, return briefly to the distraction, and scan again.  Yes, some of your personal safety will be compromised.  Some awareness, created by the regular, consistent, and thorough scan, is significantly better than no awareness at all.

What about the potential threat?  Obviously you will pay more attention to them.  Even so you should occasionally scan the area around you.  Why?  The potential threat may be attempting to move to a place where he has a strategic advantage.  Or he may have an accomplice or two.  If you regularly pull back from being singularly focused on the potential threat, you have a much greater likelihood of becoming aware of these key pieces of information.

Some distractions can be eliminated completely – or at least reduced significantly.  You can always make that call later, or wait until you are in a familiar area to read or send that text.  If you absolutely must send that text or read that email, then follow a simple plan of action: find a place to accomplish your task that won’t impede others; stop; scan; complete your task; scan again; and move on.

Remember – Personal Defense is not a destination, but a journey – and awareness is a great example of this. 

Share how it’s going on our forums at  It will be a huge encouragement to me – and to others on their Personal Defense journey.

Be Safe!

Awareness – The Foundation of Personal Defense

Part 1

All Personal Defense starts with being aware of your surroundings.  Awareness is a combination of observation, intuition, and mentally developing possible outcomes.  

A person that has developed a good sense of awareness greatly increases their ability to stay safe.  They see problems as they occur – perhaps before they even start.  
If we increase our awareness, we improve our personal safety.  This series of blog posts will discuss ways to develop and enhance our awareness.


Increase your Awareness Zone

How far away do you pay attention to others?  Or to put it in a Personal Defense perspective, if someone from 5 or 6 feet away wanted to do you harm, would you have time to respond and defend yourself?  Let’s look at some research findings to try and answer that question.

If you are paying attention to your surroundings, it takes about 1.5 seconds for you to recognize and then respond to a surprising event.  So to be able to respond, you have to see the bad guy when he is 1.5 seconds – or more – away from you.  That sounds pretty doable, don’t you think?

To know for sure that we can do this, we need to know how far can a bad guy travel in 1.5 seconds.

What would your guess be?  6 feet?  10 feet?  Perhaps 15 feet?

It turns out that a person can travel further than you realize in 1.5 seconds.  From a standing start, a reasonably athletic person can travel about 21 feet in this brief 1.5 second span of time.  How far away is that?  To put it in context, a full-size SUV is about 19 feet long.

Now it sounds impossible to do unless you are part superhero.  But before we throw up our hands and surrender, let’s take a little closer look at this concept of awareness.  You will find that you don’t need superpowers to improve your awareness.

Let’s start with where you are – how far away are you paying attention to others?  When you are among other people, perhaps at the mall or a restaurant, how far away are you noticing other people?  Probably far enough away to avoid bumping into them as you are walking along, which is a common courtesy among citizens.

But that doesn’t tell me, in concrete numbers, how far away you notice others.  What distance away do you have to see someone to keep from running into them?  If you are walking at an average pace, you are probably looking about 5 to 8 feet in front of you.  That distance tends to shrink as we slow down, and extend as we speed up.

Let’s call this area where you notice people your ‘Awareness Zone.’  Right now, your Awareness Zone extends in front of you 5 to 8 feet, and probably 20 or 30 degrees to either side of you.

For the next week, try and extend your Awareness Zone by one foot.  That is something we can do without needing superpowers.  While you are doing this, be intentional about looking a little further to each side.  This is called scanning, and it will widen your Awareness Zone significantly.

If you can extend your Awareness Zone by one foot, and widen it to 45 degrees on either side of you, then you have dramatically increased your awareness.  How much is hard to quantify, but I would say by at least 20%.  In one week, you have developed better awareness than a large majority of the population.  Congratulations!

Know with certainty that improving your awareness has also increased your personal safety.   You are now seeing potential problems earlier than you were, making it even easier to avoid them.

Awareness is similar to other basics of Personal Defense.  The concepts are not hard to learn, they improve rapidly at first, and you can continue to develop them for the rest of your life.

Keep working on extending your Awareness Zone.  Next week increase it by a foot, get consistent and comfortable with that distance, then extend it another foot.  Before long you will have doubled your Awareness Zone, improving your personal safety, increasing your confidence, and giving you more peace of mind.

I do have a confession to make.  I don’t do this perfect all the time.  But I am getting better.  I see things further away and I anticipate what someone will do much earlier than I used to.

Personal Defense is not a destination, but a journey – and awareness is a great example of this.

Share how it’s going on our forums at  It will be a huge encouragement to me – and to others on their Personal Defense journey.

Be Safe!

Personal Defense – Me???

Personal Defense

Perhaps one of these describes you:
–  you felt like you were being watched – and perhaps targeted – by someone at the mall
–  you have a former partner that has threatened to do you harm
–  you think a co-worker is stalking you
–  you know someone that was the victim of a violent crime

Or perhaps you sense that violence is increasing in your community

Regardless of the reason, you are interested in providing for your personal safety.

But here is your challenge… you don’t know what to do about it.

If that describes you… then WELCOME… because you are in the right place.

YOU have the ability to remain calm in the face of adversity.

YOU have the ability to implement real steps that are simple and effective.

YOU have the ability to live your life with the most freedom possible.

In other words, YOU have the ability to engage in Personal Defense.  However, you are missing one key component.

What you lack is a guide.  Someone who understands what you are facing.  Someone who can empathize with your challenges.  And someone that can provide objective information and advice, to enable you to not just survive but to thrive.

Sure, a bodyguard would be nice.  But most of us can’t afford one.

And the police are great – and minutes away when seconds count.

The first line of defense, for your personal safety, is…. YOU!  Your safety is your personal responsibility.

This is a new idea for most of us.  Yes, we may have given it a passing thought from time to time.  But we probably never spent enough time to think through the implications of it.  That’s where Reality Check comes in.

Reality Check is created to provide objective information on Personal Defense tools and methods.  Our vision is to be THE source of information, THE place for interaction and dialog, and THE venue for inspiration and motivation as you journey along your Personal Defense path.

It is a journey – there is no magic ‘pill’ or training or information that allows you to just ‘flip the switch’ and become a Personal Defense ninja.  That approach is like a fad diet – you stay on it for a few days, but it doesn’t last and, therefore, doesn’t work.  That’s not good for a diet, but it’s potentially deadly for Personal Defense.

Your Personal Defense journey leads down a path that can extend throughout the rest of your life.  Typically, progress down this path comes in small steps.  You learn something new – small step.  You add a small piece to your lifestyle – small step.  Soon it becomes natural and integrated into your being – small step.  In this way, Personal Defense concepts stay with you for your lifetime.

You may be thinking that this small-step approach means that it will be months or years before there is any improvement in your personal safety.  And we understand that concern.  And completely disagree with it, for at least two reasons.

One reason is that most thugs are, deep down, cowards.  They don’t want a battle so they look for the most vulnerable.  Just a couple of simple things, such as being aware of your surroundings, is sufficient for them to skip you and pick a target that is distracted and unaware.

Another reason is the tools and methods we inform you about are simple and effective.  Many of them take very little time to learn and understand.  For example, consider the concept of awareness.  It is a simple idea to grasp, but there are many ways to implement this concept.  A great thing about awareness is that a very little bit of knowledge and practice results in huge improvements in a very short period of time.

The bottom line – you will see almost immediate results, especially if you are just starting on your Personal Defense journey.

Some will choose to ignore this choice, and to leave their personal safety in the hands of others.  That may work out for them.  Or they may find they are in need of personal defense immediately, while their chosen defenders must overcome significant time and distance hurdles just to arrive on-site.  This usually leads to, well, a sub-optimal outcome.

If you are reading this and choose to leave your well-being in the hands of others, I am deeply saddened by your choice.  But I can’t force you to make a different one.

If you are choosing to take personal responsibility, then I celebrate with you!  That is the most significant step, and I am excited for you whether you acquire your information from Reality Check or from other sources.  You are embarking on a journey that is interesting and challenging and filled with camaraderie and purpose and a sense of accomplishment.

So come join your fellow travelers as we venture down the Personal Defense path.  Some will travel faster than others, and some will progress further down the path.  The speed and distance of your journey are entirely up to you.  Yet we all encourage and inspire each other for making the decision to take personal responsibility for our own safety.